Glennon Doyle Melton tells a story of rediscovery, of reconnection, and most importantly of all, of love. Glennon grows up, wonderfully loved by her parents and sisters, and yet convinced that she is lacking. She sends her “representative” out (the other version of her that conceals her true thoughts and feelings) to deal with a world she doesn’t connect with or understand. Eventually she becomes bulimic, an alcoholic, and creates a pattern of meaningless sex to self soothe. When she ends up pregnant a second time, she and her boyfriend Craig marry and go on to have two more children, a home, jobs, and “real lives”, and still, Glennon feels disconnected, unloved, and removed from her present. When her husband confesses he still watches porn (after solemnly promising her years before he never would again) and that he’s had numerous one-night stands since their marriage, Glennon’s world falls apart, and she must decide: should she choose to really learn how to love her husband or should she turn and walk away?
This story is amazing for many reasons, mostly for Glennon’s no-holds-barred truths, which I’ll dare any reader to not find one aspect that resonates with him or her somehow. The themes of feeling unloved, unworthy, disconnected, and adrift are universal, whether you’re 15, 35, or 65. Glennon writes that as adults, as parents, as humans we are looking for avoid pain, avoid hurt, avoid anything that makes us sad. But really, we’re not called to avoid pain – because we cannot – but rather to be “faithful witnesses” to one another as friends when we do hit the bumps. Instead, we are called to be “warriors”, open to love, open to healing, choosing the brave path. This is a testament to the power of love, forgiveness, of overcoming barriers, and of self reflection. Truly a stunning work.
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